The woman's point of
view about Erectile Dysfunction
ED, or erectile dysfunction, is medically
defined as the inability to achieve or maintain an erection
long enough for complete sexual intercourse. Most men
experience some erection failures at certain points
in their lives. It can be the result of stress, depression,
or sometimes even for no reason at all. For some, the
problem continues and becomes chronic. According to
research, most men who experience ED are in their late
sixties. However, younger men can also have impotence
problems due to alcohol abuse, drugs, diseases and other
problems.
Although many women and men see ED as a sexual issue,
the most common causes are undiagnosed physical conditions
such as diabetes, high cholesterol, or even the earliest
stages of heart disease and other physical problems.
Often, it can be the result of certain medications used
to treat these conditions, especially some high blood
pressure drugs.
When a man experiences ED, it’s not only him
who gets affected, but his partner as well. The women
in such ceases feel vulnerable, and if they are not
taken into about their problems and conditions, things
may worsen, leading to alienation from each other. They
may look at things from their point of view and not
understand the problem from a man’s perspective.
Why is it so confusing for Women when men develop
Erectile dysfunction When men develop erectile
problems, many women become confused. They're concerned
about pressuring men excessively. They are normally
concerned that the restoration of their sex life comes
into question. They have a number of fears that they
frequently do not express, either to their husband,
to their doctor or to their gynecologist. Women are
anxious about the possibility of extramarital affairs
as well as a host of their own body image issues.
According to researchers, it is unfortunately lack
of education about the causes of ED which are frequently
behind a woman's self-blame, as well as her increasing
anxiety, and sometimes, even feelings of hurt and anger
when the problem occurs. They are at times unable to
understand the real problem and get the wrong idea.
Most women usually start with a line of questioning
that often has some anxiety or hurt to it. She may suspect
her partner is having an affair, or that he just doesn't
find her desirable anymore. This could lead her to make
wild guesses at these possibilities.
They may not realize that their partner is facing the
same thing, but he may not be able to express his fears
or apprehensions at the fear of being rejected. They
may have different points of view towards this problem
and may experience different feelings and emotions.
Their points of view may consist of the following notions:
Guilt
A woman feels she is responsible for the problem. She
may feel guilty of having said something to anger her
partner or of not feeling attractive enough. Unfortunately,
many partners don't discuss their feelings for fear
of increasing the embarrassment and guilt of being the
one with the problems.
Anger
Sometimes, couples become so frustrated they blame each
other. It is not uncommon for a woman to worry that
her impotent partner is having another sexual relationship.
They may only see things from their own point of view.
Indifference
Some partners are not affected by erectile dysfunction.
Perhaps they have not learned to enjoy sex, but see
it more as a duty or obligation. This can become a separate
problem when one person in a relationship desires sexual
fulfillment and the other is willing to give it up.
Some tips for women to handle ED in their
partners:
- Talk about it as soon as it occurs as silence will
not make things better.
- Don’t assume anything. Ask your partner why
they think this has happened. It may be that you were
both repulsed by something or that you were tired
or had drunk too much alcohol.
- Go to see your doctor and tell him so that s/he
may either offer counseling or treatment.
Erectile Dysfunction if seen from a woman’s point
of view may seem a shattering experience with feelings
of insecurity. She may feel hurt and confused about
what to do in order to make things better. She may find
that she is unable to share her feelings and think the
problem lies with her even if it does not.
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